15/20 Choices That Proclaim the Gospel of Life In Your Marriage

Q3:  LIFE Choices (Choices That Promote Life)


SESSION 2 Choices That Proclaim the Gospel of Life In Your Marriage


  1. One famous Scripture on marriage is Ephesians 5:  “Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ.   Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body.  As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her.”  (Eph 5,21-25)


  1. The married couple must proclaim the Gospel of Life in their marriage according to God’s Plan. This they can do by:
  • Choosing to be in God’s image.  This is the basis of our goodness and great attraction to one another.  The couple remains 2 different yet complementary ways of being like Him.

The more masculine and feminine we are as spouses, the more able to rejoice in each other’s beauty and goodness.

  • Choosing to leave and to cleave
    • Gen. 2, 18-24 speaks of becoming one flesh.  This means to put your spouse 1st over your job, hobby, friends, parents, kids; never leave each other; be first for each other – not just a physical union but in every aspect of their lives.
    • Choosing to be no longer two but one
      • Mt. 19, 6:  “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”
      • They become ONE heart, ONE intention, ONE feeling, ONE aim, never to be separate from each other.
      • One of the greatest mysteries on earth is the mystery of marriage, when one loses oneself in the love of the spouse.
      • Choosing to be as God Himself is One
        • God reveals Himself as both man and woman.  (Because God is neither male nor female, we see characteristics in Scripture that are traditionally considered masculine like stronghold, refuge and Father, and female characteristics like love, gentleness and Mother.) In God, man and woman are one.
        • It shows God as real by the couple’s loving unity.  They are a living miracle due to the power of the Holy Spirit, who is the Spirit of Love working in the couple!
        • Choosing to love unto the giving of life
          • This refers to the fruit of the couple’s love, their children.
          • It also means all forms of giving life to others spiritually by getting involved in service, discipleship, ministry, etc.
          • One gives wholly of himself/herself for the sake of the other.


3. Jesus Chooses to Make A Miracle of Marriage

  • Like the miracle at the Wedding at Cana, Jesus will make a miracle in the couple’s Christian marriage if the couple CHOOSES to yield to Him.
  • What will Christ do with the wine of their marriage?
    • The wine of their love won’t be diluted but become richer with the years.  People think that young love is great, but as in the miracle at the Wedding of Cana, the last wine is always the best wine! It is aged and full-bodied.
    • Jesus changed water into wine.  It was a foreshadowing of the wine of His blood for His Church Bride.  He will change the young love to a mature love, stable and real because it has withstood the test of time, great effort and a constant choice to love.
    • The Sacrament of Marriage is a great mystery because matrimonial couples can reproduce the love of Christ for His Church.
    • In marriage, husband and wife “pour out their blood for each other” and “break their bodies for each other” in every act of sacrifice, putting the other first even though they want other things.  (One has to die to himself/herself for the sake of the other.)
    • The strength to truly love by saying it and living it out daily comes from the cross of Christ and by living the Sacraments of Marriage and the Eucharist.  Both Marriage and the Eucharist remain patterns of the cross, which is the supreme symbol of love (as Christ has shown).
    • Choose to be selfless and loving. (Put the other’s happiness over and above your own.  Always consider the other person in every decision you make.)
    • Choose to be patient.  (We are all unfinished works of art that need time to develop.  Don’t sweat the small stuff.  Choose your battles.)
    • Choose to see the best in the other person.  (Remember why you married him/her in the first place.  Remember the promises you made to your spouse and to God in your wedding vows.)
    • Choose to be ONE.  (You’re on the same team.  Agree on your goals and stick to them.)
    • Choose to be Christ to the other.  (This person is your way to heaven.  See Christ in the other.  Remember that you are supposed to be Christ to your spouse, too.)
  1.  Practical Life-Giving Choices You Can Apply to Your Marriage

Reference:  Sexuality and Marriage in God’s Plan by Joseph and Arlette D’Souza


Discussion Starter:

What life-giving choices are necessary for your marriage to be the best wine?

What choices have you made and actions have you done that were like wine poured out and bread broken for the other?